Practical Tips for Returning to Work While Still Grieving

​When you’ve lost the love of your life, your person, the world seems to stand still or at least move in slow motion. Unfortunately, the world does not stop for your grief and at some point, returning to work is inevitable. Balancing the demands of your job with the emotional turmoil of grief requires patience, understanding, and a strategic approach. Here are some practical tips to help you manage your grief in the workplace while maintaining your professional responsibilities.

1. Understand Your Needs: this can be challenging but try to take some time to consider what you may need when you return to work. Grief affects everyone differently, and your response will be unique. Consider if taking breaks throughout the day would be helpful, if a reduced workload would be possible, and generally what type of support you may require.
   
   
2. Communicate with Your Manager: It’s important to have an open conversation with your manager about your loss. Let them know what you’re going through and discuss any adjustments you might need, such as flexible hours, a reduced workload, or the ability to work from home.
   
   
3. Understand Your Company’s Policies: Familiarize yourself with your company's bereavement leave policies and any additional support they may offer, such as employee assistance programs (EAPs) or counseling services.
   
   
4. Set Expectations: Let your colleagues know what you’re comfortable with when it comes to discussing your loss. Some people may avoid the topic out of fear of saying the wrong thing, while others might be overly inquisitive.
   
   
5. Accept Offers of Help: Don’t hesitate to accept offers of help from colleagues, whether it’s covering a shift, assisting with a project, or simply providing a listening ear.
   
   
6. Acknowledge Kind Gestures: If colleagues offer condolences or express their support, acknowledge their kindness. A simple “thank you” is sufficient, and you don’t have to go into detail if you’re not comfortable.
   
   
7. Take Breaks: Allow yourself regular breaks throughout the day to step away from your work and regroup. Use this time to take deep breaths, go for a walk, or simply sit quietly.
   
   
8. Practice Self-Care: Engage in self-care activities outside of work to help manage your emotional well-being. This can include exercise, meditation, hobbies, or spending time with loved ones.
   
   
9. Be Kind to Yourself: Understand that your productivity may be affected by your grief. Be gentle with yourself and set realistic expectations for what you can accomplish.
   
   

Managing your grief while working is a challenging but achievable task. Communicating openly and regularly with your manager and company is important. Do not suffer in silence. Set realistic expectations for yourself and ensure your manager is on-board.

Grieving is extremely taxing both physically and emotionally, so take time to prioritize self-care.  Many of your co-workers and colleagues will not understand the depth of pain you are feeling, so be patient with yourself and with others.
​
Are you struggling with trying to maintain your professional career while grieving? I understand. I was there after my husband suddenly passed away. I invite you to schedule a free 30-minute discovery call with me to learn more about how I can support you in this chapter of your life.
​