Nine Tips to Manage Fatigue During Grief

​Fatigue is an inevitable by-product of grief. Loss of appetite and lack of sleep can be contributors. But the sheer physical and emotional pain of grief is also exhausting. To successfully grieve, self-care and energy management are important. But how? Here are some tips:

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1. Be Realistic in Expectations of Yourself: Take time to consider what you can physically and mentally do during this stage of your grief. Things to consider might be if you have the mental and physical capacity to attend social gatherings? Do you need to leave an event early or not go at all? Do you need to take a break during the day at work? Do you need to nap in the afternoon? What else do you think you are or are not capable of doing right now? Communicate with others how you are feeling and let them know what you can and can’t do so they can best support you.
2. Movement and Exercise are Important: Exercise can be hard during grief, but can actually have a meaningful impact on reducing fatigue. Consider taking small steps towards movement like a ten-minute walk or stretching or yoga. Exercise does not need to be intense at this stage and as you build your strength back up, you’ll be able to do more.
3. Eat Healthy Foods: Eating can be hard during grief with some widows eating too much. Self-care includes taking time to eat right. Ask friends or family to help you with meals, if needed. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Try small meals or snacks. Focus on food high in protein to support energy. Drink lots of water and avoid caffeine and sugar as they can lead to energy crashes.
4. Seek Connection: Reaching out to the right friends and family can provide comfort and release negative energy, which will help you feel less fatigued. Do what you can here, within your limits – a text, a phone call, a coffee outside the house. Work- up to bigger activities and outings as you are able.
5. Grief Knows No Boundaries: Often widows may think they “need a break” so they take a vacation or a weekend away. Your grief will follow you wherever you go, so keep this in mind as you think about self-care. It may require you to stay home to work through your emotions.
6. Express Yourself: Creative outlets can support in expressing your emotions and overcoming fatigue. Things like journaling, drawing, painting, listening to music, or spending time in nature can be cathartic and help alleviate emotional fatigue.
7. Implement Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practicing mindfulness during grief can have a profound impact on your ability to heal. Mindfulness can include deep breathing exercises to place your focus in the present, conscientiously pushing out distractions.  Meditation can also reduce stress and promote relaxation. Take time to focus on or seek out support with your mental health to reduce anxiety and improve energy.
8. Establish Routine: Establishing a daily routine can provide structure and stability during this challenging time. Even simple routines, like waking up and going to bed at the same time each day, can help regulate your body's internal clock to reduce fatigue.
9. Connect with Nature: Spending time outdoors, whether it's taking a walk in the park or simply sitting in your backyard, can be rejuvenating and help you feel more grounded and energized.

 
Remember, grief is a unique and individual process, so it's important to find self-care strategies that work best for you. Give yourself grace. Grieving is one the hardest things you’ll ever have to endure. Allow yourself the time and space you need to heal. It’s okay to lean into the fatigue and emotions when needed. Grieving does not happen overnight and staying grounded in things that reduce stress and anxiety will help reduce fatigue over time.
 
Are you struggling with fatigue during your grief? I’d be honored to support you during this process. Schedule a free 30- minute consultation to discuss how I can help.